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Tuesday, June 28, 2005
Trees do Whaaaaaaat?
I must admit that I love (I mean looooooove) Popular Science. It's like the coolest magazine on earth. What better way to be on the "up and up" with all the latest gadgets? At any rate, I was reading this article a while back and thought it was really interesting. I was talking to Mikey about it recently, so I thought I'd put a link to it on my blog so that everyone can learn about smog-causing trees!
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Old Photos
I'm not sure why I like old photos, but these are some of my favorites. They remind me of an old episode of Leave it to Beaver or The Wonder Years.
The first one is a picture of my mom and her siblings on their first day of school in the 50's. The second is a picture of my Mom in my Aunt's wedding. My sister was the flower girl and my brother was the ring bearer. Get a load of those outfits!! The last one is a picture of my Mom, Dad and sister in front of their first apartment. This was probably around 1966.
The first one is a picture of my mom and her siblings on their first day of school in the 50's. The second is a picture of my Mom in my Aunt's wedding. My sister was the flower girl and my brother was the ring bearer. Get a load of those outfits!! The last one is a picture of my Mom, Dad and sister in front of their first apartment. This was probably around 1966.
I found my twin today.
So I was at this Northrop Grumman "learn to be a leader" type conference today. The idea was to put a bunch of HR people in one room and teach them to communicate. Big mistake. None of us shut up! As "people people" we talked the whole time, had a blast and compared personality types.
At dinner, I met this very nice woman. I asked her what she did for the company. She said she started out as an HR Assistant, but now she's an Analyst and runs all the reports for her division and makes her own Access databases. I immediately began to tell her that I too, started as an HR Coordinator but now am the IT person for HR as well as the FSO and I make my own databases and do data mining for HR. I asked her how she learned Access. She said she was "self-taught". I told her that I, too was self taught. She then told me she lives in Haymarket, and I told her I grew up there. Coincidence after coincidence ensued and finally I said, "Are you an ENTJ too?" She started laughing and said she was. She said she loves Meyers Briggs and researches it all the time. At that point, I told her that I had found my twin!
The funniest thing she said to me all night was, "I hate other ENTJs". I said I did too, but I'd be willing to give her a chance. :)
I think the greatest thing about tonight was I finally met someone that knows ACCESS!! WOO HOO! At long last, I'll have someone to ask for help when I get stuck!
At dinner, I met this very nice woman. I asked her what she did for the company. She said she started out as an HR Assistant, but now she's an Analyst and runs all the reports for her division and makes her own Access databases. I immediately began to tell her that I too, started as an HR Coordinator but now am the IT person for HR as well as the FSO and I make my own databases and do data mining for HR. I asked her how she learned Access. She said she was "self-taught". I told her that I, too was self taught. She then told me she lives in Haymarket, and I told her I grew up there. Coincidence after coincidence ensued and finally I said, "Are you an ENTJ too?" She started laughing and said she was. She said she loves Meyers Briggs and researches it all the time. At that point, I told her that I had found my twin!
The funniest thing she said to me all night was, "I hate other ENTJs". I said I did too, but I'd be willing to give her a chance. :)
I think the greatest thing about tonight was I finally met someone that knows ACCESS!! WOO HOO! At long last, I'll have someone to ask for help when I get stuck!
Save the world, one tree at a time
Although I've labeled myself as a self-proclaimed Republican, I do concern myself with the environment a lot more than most Right-Wingers. I am very intrigued by recycling, hybrid technology and "living off the land." One of the things that I came across in my quest to research tropical rainforests is a rainforest plantation. This place is really cool-- it combines two things I love -- nature and capitalism!
In an effort to save the rainforests, this company is buying a bunch of land in Costa Rica and planting rare Tropical Trees for farming. The idea behind it is that you buy trees (a hundred or so at a time) and they will take care of them for you. Every couple of years, they will cut them down (tree doctors carefully select which ones will go) and sell them for you. Then they'll mail you a check.
It's a pretty cool concept. The plantation has managed to re-grow a lot of previously stripped land and they are buying more and more land everyday. In addition, it has restored a lot of wildlife to the area. Because the trees are harvested in controlled amounts, the survival of the forests will continue to grow. In addition, as the demand for hardwoods grows, using plantation trees will continue to save the wild rainforests.
Pretty cool concept. I really want to invest in some, but just have to convince John. :)
In an effort to save the rainforests, this company is buying a bunch of land in Costa Rica and planting rare Tropical Trees for farming. The idea behind it is that you buy trees (a hundred or so at a time) and they will take care of them for you. Every couple of years, they will cut them down (tree doctors carefully select which ones will go) and sell them for you. Then they'll mail you a check.
It's a pretty cool concept. The plantation has managed to re-grow a lot of previously stripped land and they are buying more and more land everyday. In addition, it has restored a lot of wildlife to the area. Because the trees are harvested in controlled amounts, the survival of the forests will continue to grow. In addition, as the demand for hardwoods grows, using plantation trees will continue to save the wild rainforests.
Pretty cool concept. I really want to invest in some, but just have to convince John. :)
Monday, June 27, 2005
Kirby (not the pink kind)
OMG. I have just sat through the most painful experience of my life. Around 8:00, a guy in a shirt and tie and tennis shoes rings our doorbell with a roll of Bounty paper towels. He hands them to John and says, "Can I show you something real quick?" John says, "Sure." 15 minutes later this dude shows up with armfuls and boxes of Kirby vacuum cleaner parts. At first he said, "I'll just be a few minutes." We made small talk while he pulled cat hair out of my sofa, dust mite poop out of my mattress and poured an entire bottle of morton's salt into my carpet just to show me how well it could be vacuumed back out. He told me that he "didn't need to sell me anything because he gets paid no matter what."
Around 9:00, he went into our basement and proceeded to carpet shampoo this nasty stain that had been there for about 6 months. When he saw how pleased we were with the stain being gone, he started to turn on the Kirby charm. First, he said he needed to sell 2 more this month because he wanted to win a contest to a football game. I told him that I'd rather buy him a ticket to see the Redskins play than pay $1800 for a vacuum. Then he told us that he'd give us the vacuum for $1400 if we gave him our Dyson. When he saw I wouldn't budge on that, he offered me a "previously loved" version for $1000. I told him he'd have to ask John. John stood firm and said no, $1000 was too much. Then he said that he was going to "call his boss." Of course, the "boss" was not there... so he spoke with a sales associate that said the "boss was right next to him" and the "boss" gave him permission to give us a BRAND NEW Kirby for $1000. Gee, thanks. We said no, so the guy told us he was going to try and find the boss. I said, "I though the boss was right next to the guy on the phone?" He goes, "Oh. Uh--the guy on the phone lied." Brilliant.
Well, to make a long story short, the guy ended up leaving around 10:30 without selling us a vacuum. I immediately set the alarm system in case the guy wanted to come back uninvited. I also am the highest bidder on eBay right now at $105 for a brand new Kirby. :)
On a side note, here is a picture of my Uncle "Charlie Buck" trying to sell this wonderful product 50 years ago. My Mom is in the green and white shirt.
Around 9:00, he went into our basement and proceeded to carpet shampoo this nasty stain that had been there for about 6 months. When he saw how pleased we were with the stain being gone, he started to turn on the Kirby charm. First, he said he needed to sell 2 more this month because he wanted to win a contest to a football game. I told him that I'd rather buy him a ticket to see the Redskins play than pay $1800 for a vacuum. Then he told us that he'd give us the vacuum for $1400 if we gave him our Dyson. When he saw I wouldn't budge on that, he offered me a "previously loved" version for $1000. I told him he'd have to ask John. John stood firm and said no, $1000 was too much. Then he said that he was going to "call his boss." Of course, the "boss" was not there... so he spoke with a sales associate that said the "boss was right next to him" and the "boss" gave him permission to give us a BRAND NEW Kirby for $1000. Gee, thanks. We said no, so the guy told us he was going to try and find the boss. I said, "I though the boss was right next to the guy on the phone?" He goes, "Oh. Uh--the guy on the phone lied." Brilliant.
Well, to make a long story short, the guy ended up leaving around 10:30 without selling us a vacuum. I immediately set the alarm system in case the guy wanted to come back uninvited. I also am the highest bidder on eBay right now at $105 for a brand new Kirby. :)
On a side note, here is a picture of my Uncle "Charlie Buck" trying to sell this wonderful product 50 years ago. My Mom is in the green and white shirt.
Sunday, June 26, 2005
mememememememe
I've been reading my blog, and I've realized most of these posts have to do with me. Man, am I self-centered. I'm going to have to find a way to write about something external to myself. But what?
Both - Brained?
I just took this right brain, left brain test and I found out that I am "balanced-brained." This is what it said about me:
MIJOY, you are Balanced-brained
When you need to explain a complicated process to someone, or plan a detailed vacation, the left hemisphere of your brain, which is responsible for your ability to solve problems logically, might kick in. But if you were critiquing an art opening or coming up with an original way to file papers, the right side of your brain, which is responsible for noticing subtle details in things, might take over.
While many people have clearly dominant left- or right-brained tendencies, you are able to draw on skills from both hemispheres of your brain. This rare combination makes you a very creative and flexible thinker.
The down side to being balanced-brained is that you may sometimes feel paralyzed by indecision when the two hemispheres of your brain are competing to solve a problem in their own unique ways.
I guess that explains why I love to be artistic and creative, but am overly critical of my work so much so that I get frustrated and give up. My left brain is telling me that what I'm doing isn't 'perfect' where my right brain keeps telling me that I need to continue to do it. Hence, this internal battle with myself on a daily basis.
Stealing Blog Ideas...
100 Things About ME!
1. My middle name is Joy.
2. I am not always joyful.
3. I am married.
4. I have a cat named Dawn, her sister, Dusk, is dead.
5. Anytime I name pets with cute names, one always dies or disappears (Bonnie & Clyde, Pear & Boom, Benjamin & Franklin)
6. I am a cradle Catholic.
7. I am the youngest child.
8. I have 5 parents (see #6).
9. I played the Clarinet for 7 years.
10. I took French for 5 years.
11. I can recite the entire McDonald's Menu Song.
12. I hate the beach, it's too happy and hot.
13. I love fall and winter.
14. I like skiing, but haven't gone in a long time.
15. I have attended 9 funerals.
16. I have 25 first cousins.
17. My childhood nicknames were Pete, Mitch, Mitcherelle, Mitchy, AM, PM, and Shell.
18. As a kid, I loved to make my neighbor pretend she was a dog. I would put a rope around her neck, make her walk on all fours and drink from a water bowl.
19. I never had a dog (which is probably why I loved to do #18).
20. I am 1/4 Italian, 1/4 Polish, 1/4 German and 1/4 British.
21. My Dad plays the accordion.
22. I love Italian food.
23. My birthday is 11/17/1978... the day before the Kool Aid Massacre.
24. I think Kool Aid is way too sweet.
25. My favorite cereals are: Cheerios, Chex, Life, Frosted Mini-Wheats and Lucky Charms.
26. I've never broken a bone.
27. I've had 3 stitches when I was 3.
28. I keep my stitches in the same box as my baby teeth.
29. I love computers.
30. I am a former MacAddict.
31. I love my TiVo.
32. I love to read.
33. I used to write a lot of poetry, and am still trying to figure out if I should start again.
34. I suffer from panic attacks, hypoglycemia, endometriosis, herniated discs and fibromyalgia.
35. I am a hypochondriac, therefore #34 may be a figment of my imagination.
36. In sixth grade, I missed 54 days of school due to "stomach problems." Turns out, I was suffering from panic attacks due to a mean nun.
37. After sixth grade, I suffered from agorophobia until I entered college and would vomit before going out in public.
38. I used my "Sit N Spin" until the age of 21.
39. I was 99 pounds the day I got married.
40. I am now 140 pounds.
41. I love cheese.
42. I love cats.
43. My favorite Shakespeare play is "The Taming of the Shrew."
44. My favorite Saints are Therese and Catherine.
45. I believe in Jesus.
46. I like to paint.
47. I love my parents, despite what I may tell them.
48. I have a strong adversion to hugging, but am learning to get over it.
49. My brother has lived in Japan for 12 years.
50. I love gambling.
51. I love to garden.
52. I've never smoked a cigarette.
53. I've worked for the same company for 7 years.
54. I love to talk, and I love to listen.
55. I try and remember everything someone tells me.
56. It aggravates me when people forget what I've told them, but even more so, it makes me mad when someone tells me the same thing multiple times. That shows that they didn't feel like our conversation was important enough to remember.
57. I love watching football and baseball.
58. Basketball is dumb.
59. I love playing games.
60. Even more than playing games, I love winning games.
61. I've never lost a game of Monopoly to friends.
62. I've never won a game of Monopoly against my brother.
63. I used to be a huge Billy Joel fan.
64. I love my in-laws.
65. My husband is my best friend.
66. I've never owned a passport.
67. I am a perfectionist.
68. I love performing.
69. I want to own a franchise one day.
70. In highschool, I drove a 1987 Lincoln Town Car.
71. I'm from Haymarket.
72. I can still remember the names of every teacher I've ever had and if I saw their faces, I can tell you the names of every classmate I've ever had.
73. The closest friends that I have today, I met when I was 4, 6 and 11.
74. I cherish a good conversation.
75. I value a good debate.
76. I respect anyone that has views different than mine, as long as they know why they believe them.
77. There is nothing that I love more than a fried egg sandwich with bacon.
78. Mmmm... bacon.
79. The first thing John ever said to me was, "So I hear you like bacon."
80. I love museums.
81. I can't spell (I had to look up "museum").
82. I won the archery championship my freshman year of high school.
83. I had to read 67 books my senior year of college.
84. I had to write over 200 papers to get my Masters degree.
85. I want a pet racoon.
86. I hate cleaning litter boxes.
87. I've never seen The Godfather.
88. Napolean Dynamite is one of my favorite movies.
89. I am considering investing in a tropical rainforest plantation in Costa Rica.
90. I really want a hybrid car.
91. I am a moderate Republican.
92. I hate Maryland.
93. I hate Manassas.
94. I've never been to the top of the Washington Monument.
95. I've never been to the Vietnam Memorial, the Lincoln Memorial, the Jefferson Memorial or any other Memorial.
96. The Smithsonian is the best place on Earth.
97. I don't believe in aliens, but I believe in ghosts.
98. I've never seen a ghost.
99. I've eaten Cicadas (thanks to Mikey).
100. You didn't think I'd go through 100 things without saying I'm an ENTJ did you? :)
1. My middle name is Joy.
2. I am not always joyful.
3. I am married.
4. I have a cat named Dawn, her sister, Dusk, is dead.
5. Anytime I name pets with cute names, one always dies or disappears (Bonnie & Clyde, Pear & Boom, Benjamin & Franklin)
6. I am a cradle Catholic.
7. I am the youngest child.
8. I have 5 parents (see #6).
9. I played the Clarinet for 7 years.
10. I took French for 5 years.
11. I can recite the entire McDonald's Menu Song.
12. I hate the beach, it's too happy and hot.
13. I love fall and winter.
14. I like skiing, but haven't gone in a long time.
15. I have attended 9 funerals.
16. I have 25 first cousins.
17. My childhood nicknames were Pete, Mitch, Mitcherelle, Mitchy, AM, PM, and Shell.
18. As a kid, I loved to make my neighbor pretend she was a dog. I would put a rope around her neck, make her walk on all fours and drink from a water bowl.
19. I never had a dog (which is probably why I loved to do #18).
20. I am 1/4 Italian, 1/4 Polish, 1/4 German and 1/4 British.
21. My Dad plays the accordion.
22. I love Italian food.
23. My birthday is 11/17/1978... the day before the Kool Aid Massacre.
24. I think Kool Aid is way too sweet.
25. My favorite cereals are: Cheerios, Chex, Life, Frosted Mini-Wheats and Lucky Charms.
26. I've never broken a bone.
27. I've had 3 stitches when I was 3.
28. I keep my stitches in the same box as my baby teeth.
29. I love computers.
30. I am a former MacAddict.
31. I love my TiVo.
32. I love to read.
33. I used to write a lot of poetry, and am still trying to figure out if I should start again.
34. I suffer from panic attacks, hypoglycemia, endometriosis, herniated discs and fibromyalgia.
35. I am a hypochondriac, therefore #34 may be a figment of my imagination.
36. In sixth grade, I missed 54 days of school due to "stomach problems." Turns out, I was suffering from panic attacks due to a mean nun.
37. After sixth grade, I suffered from agorophobia until I entered college and would vomit before going out in public.
38. I used my "Sit N Spin" until the age of 21.
39. I was 99 pounds the day I got married.
40. I am now 140 pounds.
41. I love cheese.
42. I love cats.
43. My favorite Shakespeare play is "The Taming of the Shrew."
44. My favorite Saints are Therese and Catherine.
45. I believe in Jesus.
46. I like to paint.
47. I love my parents, despite what I may tell them.
48. I have a strong adversion to hugging, but am learning to get over it.
49. My brother has lived in Japan for 12 years.
50. I love gambling.
51. I love to garden.
52. I've never smoked a cigarette.
53. I've worked for the same company for 7 years.
54. I love to talk, and I love to listen.
55. I try and remember everything someone tells me.
56. It aggravates me when people forget what I've told them, but even more so, it makes me mad when someone tells me the same thing multiple times. That shows that they didn't feel like our conversation was important enough to remember.
57. I love watching football and baseball.
58. Basketball is dumb.
59. I love playing games.
60. Even more than playing games, I love winning games.
61. I've never lost a game of Monopoly to friends.
62. I've never won a game of Monopoly against my brother.
63. I used to be a huge Billy Joel fan.
64. I love my in-laws.
65. My husband is my best friend.
66. I've never owned a passport.
67. I am a perfectionist.
68. I love performing.
69. I want to own a franchise one day.
70. In highschool, I drove a 1987 Lincoln Town Car.
71. I'm from Haymarket.
72. I can still remember the names of every teacher I've ever had and if I saw their faces, I can tell you the names of every classmate I've ever had.
73. The closest friends that I have today, I met when I was 4, 6 and 11.
74. I cherish a good conversation.
75. I value a good debate.
76. I respect anyone that has views different than mine, as long as they know why they believe them.
77. There is nothing that I love more than a fried egg sandwich with bacon.
78. Mmmm... bacon.
79. The first thing John ever said to me was, "So I hear you like bacon."
80. I love museums.
81. I can't spell (I had to look up "museum").
82. I won the archery championship my freshman year of high school.
83. I had to read 67 books my senior year of college.
84. I had to write over 200 papers to get my Masters degree.
85. I want a pet racoon.
86. I hate cleaning litter boxes.
87. I've never seen The Godfather.
88. Napolean Dynamite is one of my favorite movies.
89. I am considering investing in a tropical rainforest plantation in Costa Rica.
90. I really want a hybrid car.
91. I am a moderate Republican.
92. I hate Maryland.
93. I hate Manassas.
94. I've never been to the top of the Washington Monument.
95. I've never been to the Vietnam Memorial, the Lincoln Memorial, the Jefferson Memorial or any other Memorial.
96. The Smithsonian is the best place on Earth.
97. I don't believe in aliens, but I believe in ghosts.
98. I've never seen a ghost.
99. I've eaten Cicadas (thanks to Mikey).
100. You didn't think I'd go through 100 things without saying I'm an ENTJ did you? :)
Sunday, June 19, 2005
So What's All This Meyer's Briggs Stuff?
Just as Mormons have made it their mission to convert the world, I have made it my mission to proclaim to the world what Meyer's Briggs is and why I love it so much.
Studying people interests me to no end. I love to understand what makes people tick and I love to help people. Studying personality types is a great way to understand someone pretty quickly. Some people ask "What's your sign?" -- I ask "What's your MBTI?"
According to www.personalitypage.com, there are 16 different personality types formed from combinations of 8 different "letters." Out of those 8 letters, each person is 4 of the 8. They are:
Extrovert vs. Introvert (E or I)
Intuitive vs. Sensing (N or S)
Feeling vs. Thinking (F or T)
Judging vs. Perceiving (J or P)
Extroversion and Introversion
When we talk about "extroversion" and "introversion", we are distinguishing between the two worlds in which all of us live. There is a world inside ourselves, and a world outside ourselves. When we are dealing with the world outside of ourself, we are "extraverting". When we are inside our own minds, we are "introverting".
Sensing and Intuition
The "SN" preference refers to how we gather information. We all need data on which to base our decisions. We gather data through our five senses. Jung contended that there are two distinct ways of perceiving the data that we gather. The "Sensing" preference absorbs data in a literal, concrete fashion. The "Intuitive" preference generates abstract possibilities from information that is gathered. We all use both Sensing and Intuition in our lives, but to different degrees of effectiveness and with different levels of comfort.
Thinking and Feeling
When Jung studied human behavior, he noticed that people have the capability to make decisions based on two very different sets of criteria: Thinking and Feeling. When someone makes a decision that is based on logic and reason, they are operating in Thinking mode. When someone makes a decision that is based on their value system, or what they believe to be right, they are operating in Feeling mode. We all use both modes for making decisions, but we put more trust into one mode or the other. A "Thinker" makes decisions in a rational, logical, impartial manner, based on what they believe to be fair and correct by pre-defined rules of behavior. A "Feeler" makes decisions on the individual case, in a subjective manner based on what they believe to be right within their own value systems.
Judging and Perceiving
Judging and Perceiving preferences, within the context of personality types, refers to our attitude towards the external world, and how we live our lives on a day-to-day basis. People with the Judging preference want things to be neat, orderly and established. The Perceiving preference wants things to be flexible and spontaneous. Judgers want things settled, Perceivers want thing open-ended.
Want to know what you are? Go here to take the test: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm
Then go here to learn more about it: www.personalitypage.com
Studying people interests me to no end. I love to understand what makes people tick and I love to help people. Studying personality types is a great way to understand someone pretty quickly. Some people ask "What's your sign?" -- I ask "What's your MBTI?"
According to www.personalitypage.com, there are 16 different personality types formed from combinations of 8 different "letters." Out of those 8 letters, each person is 4 of the 8. They are:
Extrovert vs. Introvert (E or I)
Intuitive vs. Sensing (N or S)
Feeling vs. Thinking (F or T)
Judging vs. Perceiving (J or P)
Extroversion and Introversion
When we talk about "extroversion" and "introversion", we are distinguishing between the two worlds in which all of us live. There is a world inside ourselves, and a world outside ourselves. When we are dealing with the world outside of ourself, we are "extraverting". When we are inside our own minds, we are "introverting".
Sensing and Intuition
The "SN" preference refers to how we gather information. We all need data on which to base our decisions. We gather data through our five senses. Jung contended that there are two distinct ways of perceiving the data that we gather. The "Sensing" preference absorbs data in a literal, concrete fashion. The "Intuitive" preference generates abstract possibilities from information that is gathered. We all use both Sensing and Intuition in our lives, but to different degrees of effectiveness and with different levels of comfort.
Thinking and Feeling
When Jung studied human behavior, he noticed that people have the capability to make decisions based on two very different sets of criteria: Thinking and Feeling. When someone makes a decision that is based on logic and reason, they are operating in Thinking mode. When someone makes a decision that is based on their value system, or what they believe to be right, they are operating in Feeling mode. We all use both modes for making decisions, but we put more trust into one mode or the other. A "Thinker" makes decisions in a rational, logical, impartial manner, based on what they believe to be fair and correct by pre-defined rules of behavior. A "Feeler" makes decisions on the individual case, in a subjective manner based on what they believe to be right within their own value systems.
Judging and Perceiving
Judging and Perceiving preferences, within the context of personality types, refers to our attitude towards the external world, and how we live our lives on a day-to-day basis. People with the Judging preference want things to be neat, orderly and established. The Perceiving preference wants things to be flexible and spontaneous. Judgers want things settled, Perceivers want thing open-ended.
Want to know what you are? Go here to take the test: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm
Then go here to learn more about it: www.personalitypage.com
People Actually Read This?!
Last night at Jamie's party, Gill and I had an interesting discussion about the fact that we are both ENTJ's and the fact that we are somewhat quiet when it comes to large groups. As extroverts, we were pondering why this was so. We came to the conclusion that we are both great at talking to people one-on-one and we are great at getting up on a stage and performing to "one" mass of anonymous people. But put us in the middle of a party, and we tend to freeze. So I got to thinking about this performing thing and how I don't mind spilling my guts to a mass of unidentified people, which brings me to a second conversation I had last night. I was talking to Rob and he was mentioning how he remembered reading my website that I made when John and I were first engaged. I was immediately horrified that not only Rob saw such an embarrassment of a site, but that he actually REMEMBERED it. Then it occurred to me that I often feel very uncomfortable when people are talking to me in person about my blog. My blog is merely a performance to a mass of unidentified people. Once those people identify themselves to me, I feel very self-conscious. You're not supposed to READ my blog! And if you do, you're supposed to pretend you haven't!
Don't ask me why I feel that way. Perhaps it's just another ENTJ mystery.
Don't ask me why I feel that way. Perhaps it's just another ENTJ mystery.
Mi Friends, Su Friends
John and I had an interesting conversation last night with Rob and Julie and Dawn. We were talking about the fact that I've always called John's friends just that -- John's friends. It wasn't until very recently that I actually started to understand that John's friends have become my friends too.
Last night at Jamie's party, Delvaux kept remarking that I was "still here" and that I "hadn't left yet" and why was I "staying so long?" What he meant was, "Gee Michelle, you're either never here, or when you are, you leave way too freakin early. Why is tonight different?"
The way I always looked at it is, in marraige you need your space. I had always made it a point to not be the annoying wife and always have to be hanging around John all the time. Therefore, when we got married, I wanted him to have his time with HIS friends and be able to let loose every now and then. That soon got interpreted to John's friends as, "WTF, why doesn't Michelle want to hang out with us?" That was never the case-- I was just trying to give John his space.
So, at Rob's wedding I actually decided to go out of my element and talk to people (people meaning a drunken Gill that has no recollection of our conversation). After that, I have been trying to come out of my proverbial shell and actually be social. I have since realized that John has a really really great thing going with his friends and that for once in my life, I can actually call them my friends too.
So, like it or not Foundation, I think you'll be seeing more of me.
Last night at Jamie's party, Delvaux kept remarking that I was "still here" and that I "hadn't left yet" and why was I "staying so long?" What he meant was, "Gee Michelle, you're either never here, or when you are, you leave way too freakin early. Why is tonight different?"
The way I always looked at it is, in marraige you need your space. I had always made it a point to not be the annoying wife and always have to be hanging around John all the time. Therefore, when we got married, I wanted him to have his time with HIS friends and be able to let loose every now and then. That soon got interpreted to John's friends as, "WTF, why doesn't Michelle want to hang out with us?" That was never the case-- I was just trying to give John his space.
So, at Rob's wedding I actually decided to go out of my element and talk to people (people meaning a drunken Gill that has no recollection of our conversation). After that, I have been trying to come out of my proverbial shell and actually be social. I have since realized that John has a really really great thing going with his friends and that for once in my life, I can actually call them my friends too.
So, like it or not Foundation, I think you'll be seeing more of me.
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